Knitted Cat from domatoma | Cat Necklace from Omoroka | Wooden Cat Magnet from JuliaWine
Cat Cell Phone Wallet from AtomicStitch | Black Cat Eye Mask from Naomilingerie | Plush Kitten Bouquet from ThinkGeek
So the thing about Valentine’s Day is that everyone has feelings about it. There’s a lot of hatred for it, and a lot of love for it, and I pretty much understand neither. It’s obviously a made-up holiday and big retail monsters have a field day with it. Just think, people have a solid reason slash excuse to buy nice things for the person they love! What a nightmare, right? I can’t imagine anything worse.
Look, I’m sure there are legit reasons to hate the holiday, but a lot of them sound like a dudebro came up with them to justify being an asshole, which in turn spreads this notion that women liking Valentine’s Day will resent men for not catering to their apparently unreasonable needs, and it’s all just a lot of unnecessary bullshit. If you’re in a relationship, sit down with the person you’re with. Decide how you’re going to do Valentine’s Day. Maybe you like it but you can’t afford to spend a lot of money; maybe you can compromise to get chocolates the day after Valentine’s Day — after all, they taste the same on February 14 than the next day — or go out for dinner on a day you can get a reservation for only half a kidney instead of a whole one. Maybe you don’t like celebrating your love the same day as everybody else. Maybe you’re allergic to chocolate. Maybe you really don’t see the point of gifting live flowers. Maybe you’re allergic to flowers.
Maybe you actually know each other and can get each other personalized gifts like you would for any other occasion like Christmas or birthdays. Me, I like cats. You can get me any of the above gifts and I’ll be pretty happy. My cat will also be happy if you get me the bouquet so I can use the stems as kitty toys. We’re all crazy here.
My point is, if you’re in a relationship with someone, and mind you, I’ve never been so I’m talking out of my common sense here, you should be comfortable enough letting them know if a holiday makes you break out in hives or if you’ll be really angry if it’s not observed by your significant other or if there’s a particular kind of celebration that brings up past trauma or if there’s someone in your past you closely associate with the holiday and would rather not think about or whatever. If the person you’re with shames you for whatever your opinion of Valentine’s Day is, hate to break it to you, but you’re dating an asshole. Break that shit off immediately. Let’s be real, if you can’t talk about your feelings on Valentine’s Day freely to your partner, you might be:
a) fully deserving of your space not to go in depth into a past traumatic event until you’re comfortable sharing it,
b) not in a healthy relationship,
c) both of the above.
If you’re single, you can exchange gifts with a friend, or you can treat yourself to something, or you can ignore the holiday altogether. I mean, it’s a made-up holiday that’s basically geared towards making people feel loved by having money spent on them. You love yourself, right? I love myself. I’d get me gifts. I’m not sure why I should feel bad about not being in a relationship, other than because society probably tried really hard to make me think my self-esteem was tied to whether other people— well, mostly men, wanted me. It went in one ear and right out the other, which I know is not the case for most people. It’s the borderline Asperger’s, probably. (I’m not kidding. I’m not diagnosed, but if I don’t have AS then I’m really damn close.)
Anyway. Whether you have a significant other or not, or you’re asexual or arromantic or not, or you’d rather take a page from Leslie Knope and do Galentine’s, or you want to do both Valentine’s and Galentine’s, or you’re in too new a relationship to know whether you should do Valentine’s (talk about it), or you’re in several relationships and can’t figure out the logistics (talk about it), or you’re planning to stay in and watch romantic comedies and eat ice cream, or you’re planning to stay in and play videogames and eat junk food, or a combination of any of the above things,
whatever the case,
cats remain awesome.